Hi Marie,
Please forgive the late reply - this is the second time I have written this, as I got timed out before and lost what I had written.
First and foremost, I think it's important to understand that these companies are not allowed to bully or intimidate you. Yet they continue to do so. I feel that it would be difficult and time consuming to try and recover the money you are owed from your work, so it would be sensible to consentrate on the thing you take control of.
I would take an aggressive stance with the debt collection agencies. Yes, you may owe them money as they have 'bought' the debt from Lloyds, but they simply cannot have money that you don't have. I would stop calling them and type a letter to each of the parties. Include a 'statement of means' outlining your income and realistic expenditure, and word it in the following way;
"In relation to the aforementioned account, I am writing to you to make a final offer of payment. I have already made several offers of reparation that I believe to be fair which have been declined. As you will see from my enclosed statement of means, I have a net monthly surplus of £xxx, of which I propose to make a monthly payment to you of £xx. I fell that up until now you have been unhelpful in coming to a compromised repayment schedule and have also laden me with, what I believe to be, unjust charges on the account. I have made it very clear from the outset that I am fully willing to clear the balance, but I cannot give you what I don't have. If this is not acceptable to you, I feel that my only other course of action would be to make representations to court if you wish to pursue the matter further. I would appreciate a reply to this letter in writing, so I may use it in evidence if the case is heard in court."
These firms don't want to see the case get to court, because the court will allow you to re-pay the debt at a 'reasonable' rate, and they will have to stop sending you letters as long as you pay on time every month/week. It is important that you are very careful about making a statement of means as honest as you possibly can. Be reasonable with your outgoings, and make as good an offer as you can possible afford. If you have a proof of any type of income, enclose a copy of it. Also, although it will cost a few pounds, send each letter by recorded delivery. These people have been known to ignore incoming post.
This may, at least, let you open the mail without any more stress. And if the case does go to court, drop me a message and I will try to talk you through it.
The PPI is a mystery to me. No insurance policy can cover something that doesn't cost anything. What I mean is, if you lost your card like they said it covered, they wouldn't charge you for a replacement anyway!? I would dig out your copy of the PPI terms and conditions. If you don't have it, you can get it from your local Lloyds.
The main thing here is that you get back to some sort of normality in your life. I can't imagine what you have been through, but I feel that you have to draw a line in the sand somewhere and make a concerted effort to take control. Only deal with these people by letter, so you have proof of what was said and by whom. If they call, refuse to give them any personal information - they won't be able to discuss your account because you haven't identified you are you, thus failing data protection. And if they come to the door, NEVER let anyone in unless they have a signed court order.
If this helps at all, then it was worth the RSI I've now got in my wrist! If you need more detail about anything I've written, get in touch.
Best wishes,
Rob